For the Father's

As tomorrow is Father's Day I had to take this day and think about it and all that it entails. Women take this day for granted by talking about all the so called "real fathers", because they have not forgave the father that wasn't there or the ain't shit man that they had a baby with. Be that as it may this is the day for the father's not just the so called real father's. I know the importance of the fathers and all they have meant to the family, marriage, society, etc. We as men must not forgot that as fathers our work never ends. Our duty is to the greatness and honor of our family. I remember how my own father would do things for me and I would say thank you and he would say "Son that is what daddy's do." Despite his faults he did a great service to me in his teachings and good or bad I learned a lot from him. Society leaders will chastise father's on this day about how they are their in the home and not condemn the injustice and wrong doings of the women in these homes. There are dishonorable fathers, you can't make them into fathers unless they desire that themselves. All you can do is hope God open their spirits to be fathers. But as the leaders of society and family, fathers will always be needed. Our society does not uplift fathers, so what! As long as we uplift ourselves and do our duty who cares. We must uphold the traditions and honor that has kept the human race alive for thousands of years. To you father's our honor you and respect you all. Continue to lead us out of the darkness and into the light. Love your wife and Love your kids. Happy Fathers Day

Leading as a Husband & Father

I use to like the show Andromeda because of a race called Nietzcheans, to a male Nietzchean nothing was more great than being a husband and father.  A Nietzchean male would strive to prove himself worthy to be those two things.  We as men must be dedicated to be the leaders and the heads of our houses.  As Dr. Voddie points out this trickles into citizenship and other things.  Here we try to be doctors and lawyers and have a career yet nothing is more paramount than being a father for in generations you live on.  Here's Dr. Voddie, enjoy....

Be a Woman, Think Like A Human Being

Today I was thinking about the title of Steve Harvey's first book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like A Man".  I don't know why I was thinking about it I just was.  Then I thought "Why Act Like a Lady?  Shouldn't you be a Lady instead of Acting Like one?"  Then it hit me.  Those that are not Ladies have to impersonate one or "Act Like".  If you are a Lady you need not act like one for that is who you are.  How many women are truly Ladies in this new society, that is rampant with hoish antics and feminist doctrine?  Better yet how many women are truly women?  I remember a female radio host asked me what I was looking for in a woman and I told her that she has to be a woman first and foremost.  I said that because in my eyes there are a lot of "Liliths" and not enough "Eves".  A lot of mutated, decayed, cold blooded, soulless and spirit empty females and not enough soulful, full of life, spirited filled, and of course virtuous women.  There souldn't really be any book that tells you how to "act like" a lady for a woman should be a Lady.  There is no book to tell me how be a man, I just am.  Like the image of God "I am".  So should woman be for "she is".  Ask yourself, are you a actress? Because only actresses act.  Now don't get me wrong we have a lot of women and men who act like they are this and that and they really not.  Thus this is why the world is a stage for it's players and not a living natural soul as it was made to be and still is.  To be a woman is to be truth, I know so many women say that they are real.  Of course they are, they are flesh and blood and living, maybe not spiritually alive but living nevertheless.  But to be woman is to be true because woman is true to herself.  She may fall and make mistakes, but she will rise again.  She does not act.  Why are "women" acting like ladies and not being them?  makes you wonder don't it?

Which brings me to the Think like a Man part of the title.  I been reading a way better book titled "The Way of the Superior Man' by David Deida.  In it he states that a man shouldn't try to make a woman think like a man it takes away from her feminine core.  I agree with him.  We as guys do want our women to think like men because it so much easy if she did.  But if that happened, then we kill the core feminine spirit that is within her.  I mean who wants to come home to a woman who thinks just like you?  Where is the balance? Where is the Yin and Yang factor?  Now that is a mistake on our part.  We shouldn't teach or expect our woman to think like we do because they are NOT men they are Woman.  But that doesn't mean that they can not think like a Human Being.  The problem is is that there is so much division between Men and Women that we can't bring balance to ourselves and each other is because we see each other as "different".    We see each other as different species when we are the same.  We are both Human Beings.  As human beings there are alot of things we have in common.  Based on that commonality we should have unity, companionship, and understanding. Understanding is key.  I can't expect my woman to do certain aspects that expect from another man because she is not one.  But what I can expect is for her to have the common courtesy, respect, thinking, and understanding as a human being.  We should not want to take away from our woman but enhance her.  Inspire her to be better, have them learn from us and we learn from them.  Where does it say that as the man, I have to be the "bad guy" to our children because I'm the "disciplinarian" while the mother is the nurturing innocent saint.  There would be no heroine and villain if both parents where united and had a common understanding.  We should take the time to understand each other and our relationship to each other.  I don't want my woman to think like a man and I dont' want "feel" like a woman (what i mean by feel is to be highly in tuned with my emotions).  I use to say that women need to recognize the fact that they are the weaker sex.  I didn't say it to be mean, I said it to inspire and for them to understand that by looking at that they can get on the path to becoming strong.  Women have to stop trying to be strong like a man.  Be strong like only a woman can.  Stop trying to be Annie Oakley.  "Anything you can do I can do better.." ummmmm... NO.  How about "Anything you can do, I can do, but I'm gonna do it my way."  I shouldn't expect a woman to do the same as a man cause she is a woman, but I can expect her to do it in her own feminine way.  There is nothing more sacred, spiritual, sexy, or inspiring than a woman being a woman.  That's Why women in some foreign countries got American women beat hands down, because they are not trying to be dudes they are being women.  It's like this if a man wanted another guy he would be gay.  This is why we shouldn't try to push our masculine traits on our women, but we should pass on human traits that both men and women should have. 

We should be complementary opposites to each other.  through our union there is balance and order not chaos and destruction.  Lets stop "acting" and let's Be.    Being a woman is not a curse, I know this indoctrination would make you think so but it's not.  Find strength in who you are.  We both men and women should not be competing on who is the better sex.  We should be united and love what is in us to be.  It is beautiful to be a woman just as it is great to be a man.  Stop "Acting Like" and Learn how to be. That where the enlightenment and transcendence begins. Be a Mother, Be a Wife, Be a Lady, Be a Human Being, and Be a WOMAN.

This is a good article and I thought I would share it.  Enjoy

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/rethinking-men/201010/why-some-people-have-issues-men-misandry

What masculinity means in the 21st century

by Anthony Synnott, Ph.D.

Why Some People Have Issues With Men: Misandry

Misandry is not in everyone's dictionary but it's out there.

Published on October 6, 2010

The word misandry may not be in everyone's computer dictionary, but the reality is out there. A reality without a name, however, is largely invisible.

We are all familiar with misogyny: the hatred of women. This has been well-researched for decades. We are less familiar with misandry: the hatred of men, or more broadly, the hatred, fear, anger and contempt of men. It is worth some consideration, especially since misandry is by no means restricted to women. Indeed some of the most male-negative people out there are men.
There are several levels, dimensions and causes of misandry which we need to separate, though they tend to be all stirred up and muddled together in any given discussion.
1. Reality: First we must acknowledge that misandry is partly reality-based to the degree that it is in part a reaction to misogyny, and to the real or perceived oppression of women by men. It's Newtonian physics and the Marxist dialectic: the harder you hit your head against the wall, the harder it hits you back. Misogyny generates misandry.

2. History: Misandry is also based in history, or herstory, or a misreading of history. Most of the major villains of the last century have been male: Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot, Idi Amin, Charles Taylor, Ceaucescu, Slobodan Milosevic, Saddam Hussein and Osama bin Laden. But the misreading of history is three-fold. First, their villainy was a matter of power not gender. Second, women with absolute power have sometimes been absolute villains too. Third, we cannot ignore the male heroes, including those who fought against the tyrants and eventually deposed them, or died trying. It is poor scholarship and short-term politics to portray men as solely villains and to ignore the evil women (no names mentioned) and the good men.

3. Today: About 90% of all murders in North America are committed by men. The Top 10 on the FBI Most Wanted List are usually all male. Most of the corporate CEOs and CFOs arrested recently from Enron to Bernie Madoff have been men; Martha Stewart was a lowly exception. So there seem to be real grounds for misandry. But this is the Cyclops syndrome: to see with only one eye, in only one dimension and only half of reality (as with #2 above). Cyclops people stereotype the male by the actions of a minority, define the exceptions as the rule, ignore the majority, and ignore too the minority of female villains for a cleaner, clearer (supposedly) picture. Most murderers are male but most males are not murderers, and some women are. This is not rocket science. But misandry is less about reality than politics.

4. Personal: Some misandry is likely to be grounded, like misogyny, in bitter personal experiences. Many women say that that they have had unpleasant personal experiences with men: fathers, brothers, lovers, co-workers, bosses etc. But I suppose that we have all been hurt by members of the opposite sex, and by members of our own sex too; however, to extrapolate from a minority to the general is surely unfortunate, even if understandable.
How prevalent misandry and misogyny are today in Euro-America is not clear. I have not found any gender attitude survey statistics. It is also not clear whether misandry is grounded more in historical understanding or personal experience or gender politics; but certainly misandry is deep-rooted in our culture.

5. Political Demonization: This new sexism, reverse sexism, is widespread in feminist and pro-feminist literature - or propaganda, one might say, - but largely ignored. One does not criticize feminism! But a fair number of feminists have criticized men in sexist terms. Marilyn French called men "the enemy." Germaine Greer wrote that that: "women have no idea how much men hate them." Betty Friedan, amazingly, referred to suburban domestic life as a "comfortable concentration camp" for women, and to their husbands a SS prison guards. Rosalind Miles described men as "the death sex." Valerie Solanas wrote "The SCUM Manifesto", the Society for Cutting Up Men, and Robin Morgan obligingly publicized this hate literature. Alice Walker's "The Color Purple" won the Pulitzer and is totally misandric, as are the best-sellers by Terry MacMillan. The movies were also were also very popular among women. Misandry sells. Why these black women should demonize black men, compounding sexism and racism, I don't know. It just reinforces racism.

6. Angelization: The political demonization of men is complemented by the angelization of women in a moral bi-polar totally sexist evaluation of gender: women/good and men/bad. Elizabeth Cady Stanton stated in 1848: "In my opinion, he [man] is infinitely women's inferior in every moral virtue." Maria Montessori: "Perhaps...the reign of women is approaching, when the enigma of her anthropological superiority will be deciphered. Woman was always the custodian of human sentiment, morality and honor." And as I noted earlier, it is not just women who are male-negative. The anthropologist Ashley Montagu explained that: "Woman is the creator and fosterer of life; man has been the mechanizer and destroyer of life...Women love the human race; men behave as if they were, on the whole, hostile to it...It is the function of women to teach men how to be human." His emphasis. Women as human: men as subhuman, again. Then again, Ellen Sirleaf Johnson, the President of Liberia, was asked recently: "Do you think Africa will be peaceful and war-free if it has more women in leadership positions?" She replied in classic male-negative vein. "I have no doubt of that...[women have]
a sensitivity to human-kind. Maybe it comes from being a mother" (Time 11 May 09:6).

7. War: Misandry escalated in the 1990s.The battle of the sexes became the war against women. Susan Faludi subtitled "Backlash: The Undeclared War against American Women." It was mostly about media criticism of feminism - the "war" was sheer hyperbole - but it won another Pulitzer. Marilyn French went further and wrote "The War against Women." In Canada after Marc Lepine killed 14 women in a school shooting, the federally funded Committee on the Status of Women submitted a report entitled "The War against Women" citing the 117 women murdered in the previous year but ignoring double that number of men murdered in that same year. Misandry again, ignoring male victims for political purposes, and the downstream consequences for men and women have to be serious....as in:

8. Law: The homicidal war against men kills mostly men. Men are the principal victims of homicide. But never mind reality. Politics is all. The U.S. government passed the "Violence against Women Act in 1994, and this was followed soon afterwards by similar legislation in Canada. Forget the far greater violence against men and, especially in the States, black men, and in Canada First Nations men. There is a massive disjunction between legislation and need, thanks in part to our double standards and the Cyclops syndrome of selective perception...and also the failure of men to "man up." It is not only the Criminal Justice system which discriminates against men, so does the health system, the education system and the welfare system. It is all consequential to this same misandry. (see references below)

9. Popular Culture: Misandry is now institutionalized in popular culture. Joke books, fridge magnets, T-shirts, coffee mugs, newspaper cartoons, TV sitcoms all deride all men all the time. There is no equal opportunity contempt, which in some respects is probably a good thing, but one wonders about the need for contempt. T-shirts say: "Women Rule. Men Drool" and "Boys are smelly. Throw rocks at them." - an advocacy of violence which would be unconscionable were the sexes reversed. "Dead Men Don't Rape." Nor do most living men, of course. "So many men. So little ammunition." "What do you call a man with half a brain? Gifted." And so it continues. One joke book is titled "Men and other Reptiles" and another is "101 Reasons why a cat is better than a man." The consequences of such male-negativity are not clear, but such negative affirmations seem likely to have, and to have had over the decades, a negative impact on both sexes: self-loathing and/or a resistance-generated misogyny among men, and contempt for men among women.

10. The Media: Our sit-coms portray men as bumbling fools and idiots and usually overweight, with the women as sensible, together and attractive. Everybody might love Raymond, but he's an idiot. The same idiots are re-played every night: Beavis and Butthead, Trailer Park Boys, The Simpsons, Home Improvement...We may laugh at such sexism, not recognizing it as such, but we do not laugh at racism nor sezist misogyny. To appropriate Jean Kilbourne's film on advertisements that objectified women, they are "killing us softly." We are all constantly being bombarded with messages that men are stupid and it would be surprising if we were not internalizing them. Sit-coms may be comedies but watching them is like going to school: we learn the values and attitudes being taught.

11. High Culture: Sit-coms might be defined as low culture, but misandry is everywhere. Dr. Phil (Ph.D.) put on a show recently: "What's Wrong with Men?" and he found some pretty miserable specimens of manhood to destroy and despise in public, almost entirely a female public. But surely equity demands equal time for "What's Wrong with Women?" He has had some pretty miserable specimens on his show occasionally. But no. This is misandry for fun and profit. Equity might also demand a show: "In Praise of Men!" But no.
Similarly Time Magazine published these jewels from their journalists: "we have plenty of examples of...economies in which women do all the arduous work while men sit around smoking and pontificating in coffee houses and barber shops" (Caldwell, 24.8.09:23); and another is talking about the new fMRI machines which scan brain activity: "it may be that boys are cads because they are not wired to be the other way" Cloud, 17 July 2009). So brain functions are morally bad for males, cads all, but good for women: angels all. And both these journalists are men.

12. Sexism: Michael Kimmel, who owns Men's Studies in the States, is particularly misandric, opening his book "Manhood in America" (1996) with a long list of male villains - not a hero, hard working man, good father, Nobel Peace Prize winner, not a useful Newton, Darwin, Freud, Einstein, Gandhi, Mandela, King, Carnegie Medal winner in sight. It's amazing. Then in "Men's Lives" he adds more villains and this suggestion: "Perhaps we should slap a warning label on penises across the land. WARNING: OPERATING THIS INSTRUMENT CAN BE DANGEROUS TO YOUR AND OTHERS' HEALTH" (2004:565. His emphasis). One wonders if he is wearing this label on his own penis. Does he practice what he preaches? Oh well. But such is the "scholarship" on men these days: dehumanizing.

More: two of the more misandric and dehumanizing observations are the University of Toronto, which hosts the Institute for Women and Gender. Hmm. A number of other universities demonstrate the same misandry. And in March 2009 I received an invitation to attend the Canadian Conference on the Prevention of Domestic Homicides; but it was hosted by the Centre for Research and Education on Violence against Women and Children - no mention of men except by implication as committing all the violence but never the victim. Back to the binaries again: men bad, women good; and no awareness that women commit about 10% of all homicides, and 15-25% of the domestic homicides and that (Canadian) mothers commit the majority of domestic homicides of children under 12.

To conclude: misandry is everywhere, culturally acceptable, even normative, largely invisible, taught directly and indirectly by men and women, blind to reality, very damaging and dangerous to men and women in different ways and de-humanizing. This post is to help make it visible and to deal with it - as we have dealt with, or tried to deal with, misogyny, racism and homophobia.

For references, please see my "Re-Thinking Men: Heroes Villains and Victims" (London: Ashgate, 2009); and especially the major works by Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young "Spreading Misandry" "Legalizing Misandry" and "Sanctifying Misandry"(Montreal: McGill-Queen's University Press, 2001, 2006, 2010).

It's not about a being a punk

I have been watching the movie "Harlem Nights" since I wasn't aloud to.  There's one scene where Eddie Murphy's Character is telling Richard Pryor's character that he is not a punk and he's not afraid to go after and kill anyone that tries to kill him.  This is when Richard Pryor's character says that it's not about being a punk.  He then goes on to say, "What they gon right on your tombstone? Here lies a man 27 years old. He died, but he ain't no punk.  That's not cool."  It got me to thinking about something.  We overvalue how other people will see us.  That's what is called peer pressure.   That is something that you experience in high school, but when you are an adult, the influence of others cease to affect you for you are not a child anymore.  People give their opinions on the actions we do and they critique us through our actions.  We must remember that that is there opinion.  And I have to say this.... DON'T LET NO ONE'S OPINION DICTATE WHAT YOU DO AND HOW YOU ACT. In the movie "Angus", George C. Scott use to tell his grandson "screw em".  That's what's I'm gonna tell you as well, FU** EM'.  They are not living you life and the advice that they do give you only help that said proponent i.e. them not you.  Stand firm in you adulthood and your own mind.  You don't need to prove anything to know one but yourself.  You don't have to do something to prove a point to someone.  That's just another act of control and peer pressure.  Do what you want to do and if someone don't like it, tell them to go f*** yourself. 

This is why I am a stern supporter in MGTOW (Men Go Their Own Way) because for too long we have let women and society influence how we act on things just to prove that we are a man. You don't have nothing to prove to no one that you are a man.  They didn't make you a man.  

"When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things".-1 Corinthians 13:11

That verse says a lot.  Yet we still act and think like children. The greatest minds and people were not influence by what others thought of them.  They were their own person and did what they wanted and went their own way.  When you stand in wisdom and logic, you can defeat a lot of arguments brought to you.  That talk with Jesus and the Devil is a prime example.  Let people say that you are this or that and what ever fu** them.  You live your life, I'll live mine.  I think we can all learn a lot by being our own person for that is leadership and true freedom and true knowledge of self.

The Tao of Scholar2414

One of my bro's did this for me when I posted this thought in a thread on our forum.  I'm honored he thought my words were inspiring to be a WMD.  Much respect and honor to BMV and the PSG...  This is suppose to be an archaeological find and more of this Tao is suppose to be translated (that is the gist of the story).  I submitted another piece hopefully it's worthy.  Anyway, Enjoy...

Why Don't You Change?

We always hear about how people have taken out time to change themselves only to realize that they haven't changed at all.  Old habits die hard or not at all and bad habits corrupt good morals.  But has anyone really seriously asked that question as to why don't they changed?  I mean really go into the darkness of themselves and really see who they really are.  Do we look at the world around us truthfully and ask ourselves what's wrong with us in this world and not what's wrong with the world?.  All the time we hear about how crazy and messed up the world is when all reality we are shifting blame on that which has nothing to do with the problems and ills we are facing, for it is us who are the problem as well as the answer.  So why don't we change? We had a election all about that but did one person think about where that change was going?  There are so many excuses we hear about why a person cannot change and what some else did to stop that change from occurring.  Are we not masters of our own destinies?  If so, why do we give that power to another to do as they will with it when that power realistically belong to us?   Are we that so much like children and like peter pan that we never want to grow up?  Maybe this why very few take what is called, "The Road not Taken".   Why?  Because everything else is easy to do.  It's easy to fall into a vice, or something that is immoral and not virtuous.  But it is hard to walk a "straight and narrow path".  So why don't we change?  Are we waiting for something to change around us?  Or we just really don't give a fuck?  Ask yourself that and look within yourself and see what you find.