That's Not My Pussy, That's My Woman

While Baby Boy knew that
Evette was his pussy
I knew that she was my woman

While niggas where concerned
with finding pussy, I was concerned
with making her my woman

Man was not made to be alone
and with her I am not
for see is my woman
the rib I traded in
for god to give me
Yeah, that's my woman

While you're steady looking
for Ms. Pretty Pussy
I found Ms. Lady
and Ms. Lady is
a whole lotta woman
indeed she is more than a woman
because she is my woman

See, while you're an
ugly gremlin looking ass
pussy monster that needs
to be fed pussy. She found
a handsome king that feed her
soul as she feeds mines and loves
the itis feeling we get as we both
drift off into sleep in each other's arms

While you boast how good
your head game and pussy skills are
She showed me her mind and her spirit
and how she is alot more than just
a big ass, nice tits, a pretty face, and
JUST PUSSY

Now tell me, Ain't she a woman?
She is such a fuckin lady
Don't want her to be my
baby's mama, but the mother
of my children, the rock that
holds this family together
The woman of this house

And while you try to beat it up
I BEAT IT OUT! I make her cum
physically, mentally, and spirtually
that's muliples time three
showing the true meaning of
a multi-orgasmic man

While they are concerned with
how man women they got
I got one, cause like Nas
all I need is one mic
Tyrese said all I need is one girl
and one girl I got

A queen that sits high on her throne
she kicks ass and she takes names
and women pretender and fakes
come for her crown
She stays her sword hand and
kills them with a word
for she is a woman of truth
while they proclaim that
they are a boss bitch
My woman is a boss. Bitch!

While niggas invested in pussy
who's stock plumits like the Great Depression
I invested in woman. A woman
and her stock is always going up
giving me residual income
and making my soul rich
because she is worth more that gold
A Virtuous and Phenomenal woman
yeah, that's her to the T

So when you see my girl
trying to smash and
get your boyfriend number 2 on
cause you're tryin to "get pussy"
don't be shocked or suprised
when you're access is denied
and she demisses yo ass
and tells you that that
is MY PUSSY

Dear Summer 7/16/09

Dear Summer,

Thought about you today and had to write you again. I'm here in Atlanta all alone and wishing you were. I wish I could have you meet my great grandparents, if they were still alive, to show you how I want my marriage to be. I know i often rant about my family issues but it's only because I'm disgusted at what I see. I see nothing but hyenas and if you know anything about hyenas clan, they are governed by women and the men are on the bottom of the totem pole. I don't see myself as a hyena I see myself as a Lion and I will stand up as Man and play my natural role as one. I think of you and you bring the Lion out in me more and you let me be the Lion and i love that about you. I know what the bible says and all but I just don't feel like I should do that under the expense of me being emasculated as a man. But anyway, I wanna thank you for accepting me as I am and taking me as I am. I know I have faults and I can try your patience but inspite of all of that you still like me as I am and you don't try to change me. You give me encouraging words and you just talk to me. I love to talk and show parts of myself that I never get to show and i love doing that with you. There's apart in DMX's song Dogs for Life that I love because that how I want my relationship to be, it goes:

"Now who I am is who Ill be until I die, either accept it or dont fuck withIt. But if we gon be dogs then you stuck with it!Let me go my way but walk with meSee what I see, watch me then, talk with me. Share my pain, make it a little easier to deal with it. Cause despite all the fame you Im a keep it real with it (true)! Rob and steal withcha dog nigga whatRide till we die, on till its up.Love is love and I enjoy the love, But when its conflict then it destroys the love.You cant toy with love, niggas take to the heart. You aint gon find too many niggas willing to, bark in the dark.(come on!)Keep your head from the start, dont fuck it up now, Later on they be hit like, fuck it how? ? You my dog and I die for you, keep it like that, Give me unconditional love, and I give it right back."

That's how I see where we are going. I like that you are not afraid to go there with me and I can tell you anything without being judged. You are so understanding that it amazes me. And then I think about the movie scarface and I say to myself "She's a Tiger". And that what you are to me Summer, A tiger. I remember seeing a documentary on Tigers and how they were like a keystone to a bridge. And that's what you are to me Summer a keystone to the bridge we are building with each other. Eventhough we are still working on the foundations. we are still building something that is wonderful in my eyes. I know i can be jealous when it comes to you, but hell you're beautiful and beyond. I always know there will guys swooning over you, but I just be like, "damn give her room to breathe, you messing up my time with my baby. Soak up sum game and get your on and get off of mine." However, I know that you are with me and you are not going no where and you show me that everyday. There are times when I envy you just for being the way you are, having the kind of parents and siblings you have. Don't get me wrong, I'm content, but it's like, wow! That's what i strive for with my own kids because i didn't have that. Now, it was all bad, but it seems like it's getting worse as I get older and those happy times are just memories.

Summer you inspire me to do so much. I think of ways to show you how much I care or feel about you. You just have my imagination working overtime. I was in the pool by myself thinking about playing in the pool with you, kissing you, and just holding you. There are just times when I just want to go on a series of adventures with you and just see the world with you and experience so much with you at my side. Sometimes I see you as home, and I can't wait to come home. So summer if you ever wanted me there to stay all you have to do say come home and i will come with the quickness, through hell or high water lol. I love our teamwork, and how we communicate on everything. Like nothing is to big or too much that we can't talk about. It's Like we have our own inside joke that only we know about and wouldn't make sense to the rest of the world. I want to always keep strong communication with you. Like I always say, It's you and me against world, and I'm always ready to fight and to go to war. I have never wanted to fight or protect something so much the way i want to with you. I see you as a precious gift as a Queen that I must defend in order to save the kingdom. A woman of peace and serenity, that's what you are. A beautiful dove that has come to tell Noah that the flood is coming to an end. Thank you for being you Summer and allowing me to be me.

I Like You.

Dear Summer

Dear Summer,

I had a beautiful time last night and today. I've been waiting for that moment for a long time. I am so happy today that I could sing Frankie Beverly and Maze all day. Me personally I have something to smile and be happy about but I can't let no one know. Then I wonder how long will this feeling last. I wonder if it will ever end. Being the situation that it is I know I have the most to lose however, I am still willing to go on. Sometimes I just say this, "I am fortune's fool", because that is how I feel sometimes. Seasons change, they come and go just like people, but what if I don't want you to end Summer? My third eye is open and I contemplate the "If's", yet I still choose to ignore what I see because I have faith and hope. I have never been this happy and because of you Summer other people have seen it too. I smile when you're around and when you talk to me, I share myself with you and feel normal around you. Passionate love making we make with our minds is beyond words. It like a beautiful jazz song that only we could hear and understand. But then I listen to the song from Swing Out Sister, When "The Laughter Is Over", and wonder will it ever be over truly? Will you just be a memory and no longer a reality? Was everything we had a lie or was truly genuine? I don't think of it much, because I don't want to think of it. I would rather have you in my arms looking at a sunset over a beach as if we where looking at our future. There is so much I want to do now and really get it done, because you inspire me to do so. How I want to lay in your lap and have you kiss me and tell me everything is gonna be alright. I'm listening to music wishing I could have u to slow dance with. You are something else Summer. I'm glad to have met you. I hope one day you will find me. Hope to see you soon. I wish upon you nothing but blessings... My sweet, loving and dear Summer...

Black Women : Pride Comes Before Destruction

The sister is speaking some truth. Listen and hear what she is saying, because there are still good black women out there calling out to the others that have lost their way.

Commentary: Lets End Disposable Marriage

I had to post this. This is where America is heading if we do not protect and uphold marriage and fatherhood. It's is basically suicidal and all you will have is a country in chaos.

http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/07/02/sears.family.divorce/index.html?eref=rss_topstories

By Leah Ward Sears
Special to CNN

Editor's note: Leah Ward Sears stepped down this week as Chief Justice of the Georgia Supreme Court. In 1992, she became the first woman -- and youngest person -- appointed to Georgia's highest court.

ATLANTA, Georgia (CNN) -- After Tommy's sudden death, we found among my brother's personal effects a questionnaire he had completed in 2005 for a church class.

The very first question was a fill-in-the-blank that went like this: "At the end of my life, I'd love to be able to look back and know I'd done something about ....."

"Fathers," Tommy wrote.

When asked to identify something that angered him that could be changed, Tommy wrote, "Re-establishment of equity and balance and sanity within the American family."

My brother was born to be a father, and he grew into a good and loving one. Tommy was tall and handsome, smart, witty and fun. A graduate of the Naval Academy and a Stanford-educated lawyer, he married and fathered a little girl and boy who were the center of his life.

Tommy felt that one of the worst problems in our country today was family breakdown and fatherlessness. He railed against intentional unwed childbearing and the ease with which divorce was possible. He didn't like that we have become a society that values the rights of adults to do their own thing over our responsibility to protect our children.

As a judge I have long held a front row seat to the wreckage left behind by our culture of disposable marriage and casual divorce that my brother so despised.

No-fault divorce was a response to a very real problem. The social and legal landscape that preceded it largely prevented casual divorce, but it often trapped people in abusive marriages. It also turned divorces into even uglier affairs than they are today, forcing people to expose in court damaging information about their children's other parent. That system was intolerable, and we should never go back to that.

But no-fault divorce's broad acceptance as an unquestioned social good helped usher in an era that fundamentally altered the seriousness with which marriage is viewed. It effectively ended marriage as a legal contract since either party can terminate it, with or without cause. This leaves many people struggling to remake their lives after painful divorces that they do not want. It also left many parents cut off from, or sidelined in, the lives of the children they love.

When Tommy divorced, as in so many cases, a bitter struggle over resources and the children ensued. My brother came to believe that the legal system turned him into a mere visitor of his children.

Tommy eventually accepted a job as a lawyer for the State Department and went to Iraq (and later to Dubai) in order to make the money needed to support his children. Being in a war zone, under terrible conditions without the children he loved, was unbearable to him.

On November 5, 2007, my phone rang before daybreak. A U.S. Foreign Service officer was on the other line. Was I the sister of William Thomas Sears?

I knew before I was told what had happened. Tommy had died. But the cause took my breath away: My brother had taken his own life.

I know I'll never understand fully all that factored into his decision to kill himself. No doubt Tommy was wrestling with more demons than he had ever admitted to me or knew himself. But as a divorcee myself and, for a number of years, a single parent, I know the immense pain of divorce and its aftermath. The limitations the law placed on Tommy's right to raise his own children after his divorce magnified my brother's pain and was, I believe, more than he could live with.

Tommy was only 53 when he committed suicide. That was more than a year ago, and I am still learning to live without him and live with the fact that this man I looked up to all my life chose to end his own life.

Tommy's loss has catapulted me even farther down a path I was already on. This may sound like heresy, but I believe the United States and a host of Western democracies are engaged in an unintended campaign to diminish the importance of marriage and fatherhood. By refusing to do everything we can to stem the rising rate of divorce and unwed childbearing, our country often isolates fathers (and sometimes mothers) from their children and their families.

Of course, there are occasions when divorce is necessary. And not everyone should marry. But it has become too easy for people to walk away from their families and commitments without a real regard for the gravity of their decision and the consequences for other people, particularly children.

Removing no-fault divorce as a legal option may not be the right way to move forward, and the solutions we need may not be entirely legal in nature. But answers must be found. The coupling and uncoupling we've become accustomed to undermines our democracy, destroys our families and devastates the lives of our children, who are not as resilient as we may wish to think. The one-parent norm, which is necessary and successful in many cases, nevertheless often creates a host of other problems, from poverty to crime, teen pregnancy and drug abuse.

The loss of my brother has changed my life, as these losses so often do to people. This summer, after 26 years, I'm hanging up my robe as a judge to return to private practice.

I will spend some of my time teaching a course in family law at the University of Georgia Law School. And I have accepted a fellowship at the Institute of American Values in New York -- a private, nonprofit, nonpartisan organization that contributes intellectually to strengthening families and civil society in the United States and the world.

At my request, the fellowship is named after my brother. As the William Thomas Sears Distinguished Fellow in Family Law, perhaps now I can truly do "something about fathers" -- a mission I'm on for Tommy and a critical calling for all of us.

The Crucixion of The Virtuous Woman: Intro

I have been struggling with this topic for a long time. I have always loved the essence of woman and what made woman who she was. As I look at woman today I do not like what I see. Usually it is the faults and problems of men that you hear about. One has to be watchful of one that points the finger at someone and shouts out loud about it, because usually they are doing it to keep eyes off of them and the crimes they are doing behind everyone's back. Therefore, this author is going to talk about today's woman. Because I am an African-America man, my writing is mostly about the African-American woman of today. However, this does not mean that women in America of different ethnic backgrounds do not have the same similarities or problems. These problems can be seen in any country in the world, it just so happens to be abundant in North America and Europe.

This piece was inspired by many things. My love for theology, woman, men's issues with today's woman, women in my life and above all Eve. Still, the greatest influence to write this piece came from listening to Jill Scott's poem "The Thickness". No matter how I may feel about Jill Scott and her hypocrisy, her music is excellent and this poem really moved me. I would listen i think about woman and how she relates to this poem. So, I saw the woman in the poem as today's woman and how she has changed for the worse. I saw the narrator as the essence or natural spirit that is woman or woman of antiquity watching her in sadness. Thus through this poem, I came up with the idea that the true essence of woman has been crucified and needed to be resurrected. I would listen to this poem and change up the lines in the poem a little bit saying that, "She's been degraded, exploited, corrupted, polluted, not celebrated, crucifed and assassinated by her sister's very own hatred." "May she be resurrected." So I would think about this poem and ask myself why has this happened? I began to look for answers and observe.



Although this is a blueprint to an actual piece I will come up with that has alot of objective facts, this is still my opinion. This is what me and alot of men talk about with each other and search for answers to this. However this is not directed to all African-American women, but if this is you, then I am talking about you. This is dedicated to woman who will one day be my wife and the women who each had a piece of her inside of them good, bad or indifferent. This is also a "calling out" to the African-American woman. When i first wrote about woman I titled it "Callings to Ishshah" of "Callings to Woman". It wrote it as if man was calling to woman hoping that she heard him. As dedicate this also to myself as self-centered as it may seem. It is a reminder for me to keep my passion and to remember to do what I am passionate about and be world class at it, which is teach and write. If I am wrong then I will say that I am wrong. Until then, I will forever "write what I see and see what I write."